I’m going to give you fair warning that my post today is as hard for me to write as it will be for you to read. I’ve noticed a problem with today’s culture and it has spread even into the realm of infertility.
The problem is this…
We’ve become sensitive and entitled as a people. We are offended by even the littlest things and instead of trying to understand each others’ sides or educating one another, we just pout, get mad and react. It’s causing a gap to form between the infertile and everyone else.
I bet in this moment some of you are reading what I have to say and contemplating closing this post or even showing me the ole’ snub; giving me a piece of your mind about how insensitive I’m being. Hear me out…
It’s time for us to be grown-ups. We need to change our habits, approaches, and become more diligent in peacemaking and striving towards mutual respect.
Because you know what? What we are doing is not working.
The turning point for me was the night I attended an infertility group and, I kid you not, of the 6 women that were there 4 of them ranted on about how they hated family members and even their spouse! Hated! I felt like I was on an episode of Desperate Housewives or something?!?!
This approach is W-R-O-N-G, wrong! Do you realize what kind of culture and environment that breeds!?!?!? #hate #resentment #battlegrounds #divides #awkwardholidays #divorce
Now, I like to vent just as much as anyone and I’ve definitely have had it up to my neck with the lack of sensitivity from people in general. But, this is my point…
We are creating this environment where we label those around us as enemies.
Over the last several years, the Lord has really convicted me of my issues of entitlement and sensitivity. He’s shown me my poor responses when someone says something to me that was insensitive or even offensive. I recognized an inappropriate response and action towards something that in reality I’m more passionate about than anything. I, too, had been venting and ranting more than I was pulling my weight to educate and encourage.
There is a GREAT DIVIDE between Infertile Myrtles, the general public and even our families.
There hasn’t been enough education and definitely not enough mutual respect for one another. That is why I strongly felt it was time to write this series of posts. It’s time to work on closing this gap.
Over the next month, I will be providing resources that specifically address this so-called great divide. I’ve invited a few of my infertility gals to contribute to the series, as well. I am endeavoring that once this series is completed the infertile will have been equipped with some tools and encouragement to address their part in closing the gap. The observer of infertility will have a better understanding and some ideas and practical tips on how to support us.
Bottomline, we have work to do in spreading awareness, growing an open line of communication, and learning best practices on how to close the gap. Let’s get to building that bridge.